Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Make Sure that Your First Date isn’t the Last One!



A big part of our work is organizing personal meetings with the ladies for the men who come to Kharkov. As you can imagine there have been hundreds and hundreds of first dates that I have personally been to since 1999 when Mordinson family (click here to learn who is Mordinson family) has started it's marriage agency.  


I would like to share some of the advices which you might find useful! First date is a always very special one, here are some things which you shouldn’t talk about with your date, if you don’t want her to get bored or irritated!
1.     Don’t talk about your personal (family, work or financial) problems.
2.     Don’t complain! You are a self confident and successful person!
3.     Don’t talk about any negative things! You should radiate optimism and concentrate on the positive things!
4.     Don’t get drunk! This will create a very bad impression, you can have a little drink, but no excessive drinking on a date!
5.     Don’t talk badly of your previous girl friends or wives.
6.     Don’t try to be witty and funny all the time!  Jokes and humor are welcome, but it must come naturally! Also don’t smile all the time, this looks very silly and it makes her think you aren’t self confident person!
7.     Don’t brag. There are some exceptions from that rule, but be careful! If you have a really impressive story which will make you look in a good light, you can tell the story to your date. But try to make no special emphasis on it, usually women find it very easy to detect when you start boasting to make an impression! The safest way to lead the date is to concentrate on the woman you are sitting in front of and her interests!
8.     Don’t touch those topics: politics, religion and conspiracy theories.
9.   And more than all: don’t be too quite!
10.   It’s normal to ask your date what would she like to do (if it wasn’t discussed earlier) and girls often say: “well, I don’t really know, what would you like to do?”- it’s important that you have prepared an answer to that question! You don’t want to look lost and and clueless.
      11. Don't offer the lady to share the bill. When you ask a Ukrainian woman out she expects you to pick the bill at the restaurant or any other place you go out to.